If a person must correct someone's usage of the language, may we do so sensitively without attack and hurt feelings?
Recently an intelligent young man was driven away from Gather because of the constant attack on his writing skills. He no longer could suffer the abuse. He is dyslexic and, indeed, did not write very well. However, his posts showed intelligence and thought. I always read his posts and overlooked the mistakes. I thought he had something to say.
Recently, I was corrected by two friends in such a way that I was hurt. I felt that I was being ridiculed and rebuked instead of corrected and helped. I had been corrected once before without hurt feelings. In both instances I had made a glaring error, the kind that I would appreciate having my attention drawn to.
I do not write to have my composition graded in regards to correctness of usage. I have never corrected anyone on Gather. I would if I felt that the writer would benefit from my comment, such as, "His first name is Bill, not Charles."
A kinder, gentler Gather?